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© by Wayne Ens<\/font><\/span><\/font><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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          Many sales people are afraid to use candor as a relationship builder with their customers and prospects. <\/font><\/p>\n

          They have been trained to ‘sell themselves first’.<\/font><\/div>\n
          In this effort to sell themselves first, they have placed being ‘liked’ ahead of being respected as a marketing partner.  In their quest to be liked, these glad-handers often fear opening the challenging and meaningful dialogue necessary to understand their customer’s goals.<\/font><\/div>\n
          These friendly sales types will often take every answer they get in a Customer Needs Analysis (CNA) at face value.  If a prospect claims they ‘give better service’ than their competitors, for example, these sales people will smile and say something like, “that’s nice”.<\/font><\/div>\n
          True advisors have mastered the art of playing devil’s advocate during the CNA process on their way to building stronger client relationships and more relevant ad campaigns.<\/font><\/div>\n
Professionals will explain to their prospects why they play the role of a skeptical customer.  And, when the client suggests they, “give better service,” the professional will say something like, “I’m playing a skeptical customer.  Prove to me that you give better service.”<\/font><\/div>\n
          In our Guided Discovery ©<\/sup> Selling System, we train media sales professionals to enter into their CNA’s with phrases like, “Before I can sell our audience on why they should do business with you, you have to sell me on why they should do business with you.”<\/font><\/div>\n
          This candid and frank approach may seem confrontational, but handled correctly,<\/span> will be the building block for much stronger customer relationships than the old ‘smile and pretend to agree’ approach to CNA’s.   <\/font><\/div>\n

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